The two-household list
One home is becoming two, and the second one has nothing in it. This is a list of what would actually help, written so you can send it to the people who keep asking.
“Let me know if you need anything” is the kindest useless sentence in the English language. Everybody means it. Nobody knows how to answer it. This is the answer.
It is not a wish list and it is not charity. It is logistics. Your friends already want to help and have no idea what would land, so they send flowers and feel bad. A list is a mercy for both of you.
Half of what is on here costs nothing. The best thing on this page is somebody taking the children on a Tuesday.
First on purpose. These are free, and every person who has been through this says the same thing afterward: it was the hours that mattered.
Nobody registers for a can opener at forty-five. Somebody still needs one. Links go to a search, not to a particular product — pick whatever you like.
The bar here is: you cannot sleep or eat without it.
The kind of thing several people go in on together.
Make your list and send it. Tick anything above, then take the link. The list is stored inside the link itself — not in an account, not on our servers, not anywhere. We never see it. Nothing here needs your name, your email, or a word about your divorce.
Send it to one person and let them run it. The single most useful thing a friend can do is take the list off your hands — forward it, track what is covered, and stop you having to manage a spreadsheet of your own kindness.
There is no total on this page, and there never will be. Nobody sees what has been given, nobody is thanked publicly, and nothing about this is posted anywhere.
If you buy through one of these links, Amazon pays us a small percentage. It costs you nothing, and it does not change what is on this list.
Nobody can pay to be on this list. No brand has bought a place here and none ever will — the moment a company can pay to appear on somebody’s divorce list, this page is worth nothing. Product links go to a search rather than a chosen item, so we are not recommending anything we have not looked at.
The Cusp is not a law firm and does not practice law. Nothing on this page is legal or financial advice. Changing locks, moving belongings and taking children between households can all be governed by an order in your case — check what your own order says before acting on anything here.