You are not the only one
Somebody else is awake right now.
If you are reading this for somebody else. A lot of people land here because a friend sent it. If that is what you are about to do and you are not sure what to say, thecusp.app/for-a-friend is written for you rather than for them — four things that help more than anything you could say, six sentences people reach for that land badly and why, and what to send instead of answering a legal question yourself. Free, no account, nothing to sign up for.
Divorce hands most people silence. Not advice, not a plan — silence. And the strange part is how common it is: the CDC counted 672,502 divorces and annulments in 2023, and that count leaves out California, Hawaii, Indiana, Minnesota and New Mexico entirely, because those states do not report. The real number is higher, and nobody publishes it. Whatever it is, almost everyone inside it is convinced they are the only one handling it badly.
Source: CDC/NCHS, Provisional number of marriages and divorces, 2000–2023 · 45 reporting states and DC · rate 2.4 per 1,000 population · checked 13 September 2026
Three of the things below are built and open today. Three are not, and they say so. We would rather show you the design of something before it exists than let you find out later that it was never coming.
Open today
Nothing here asks you to sign up, and nothing here costs anything.
Support groups and resourcesOpen now
Real organizations, checked one at a time by loading each site. The ones that had quietly died are named as dead rather than left on the list.
Who gets the friendsOpen now
The couple you had dinner with every other month for nine years stops calling, and nobody warns you it is coming. This is the part people are least prepared for.
Send it to someoneOpen now
If you know somebody at the start of this, the most useful thing you can hand them is a straight answer about money before they have already spent it.
Being built, in the open
These are real plans with published designs, and they are not finished. The pages describe exactly how each one will work, including the parts that constrain it, so that anyone who joins later knows what they are joining.
Buddy connectionsNot open yet
One other person going through something like what you are going through. Same state, roughly the same stage. Both of you have to say yes, and you both stay anonymous unless you decide otherwise.
The community boardsNot open yet
Three separate spaces rather than one forum, because asking what the law is, sharing what worked, and needing to say something out loud have completely different safety requirements.
The rules, published firstNot open yet
Eight of them, each one here because of a specific way a space like this can be used to hurt somebody. Written and published before anything opens, so you can judge them cold.
One honest thing about all of this. A person who has been through a divorce is not a lawyer, an accountant or a therapist, and nothing anybody tells you in a space like this is advice you should act on in your own case. What they can give you is the thing no professional can: the knowledge that the way you are handling this is not unusual, and that somebody came out the other side.
If you are in danger right now, this is the wrong page. Go to protective orders, or call 911.
People reconcile far more often than the paperwork assumes, and the paperwork does not pause while you decide. What a reconciliation does to a pending case, to the waiting period, to an automatic order and to an agreement you have already signed is set out in reconciliation: what getting back together does to a divorce.